Being a single mother can often times have you feeling like walking a tightrope. You are the provider, protector, nurturer, and guide, all while managing the daily demands of running a household. As a single mother of three sons, I understand the beauty and weight of this responsibility. We give so much of ourselves in the process—our energy, our time, our love—that it can be easy to lose sight of our own divine essence.
The divine feminine, that deeply intuitive and nurturing force within us, can become strained under the constant pressure to do it all. We can become disconnected from this part of ourselves, feeling overworked, fatigued, and emotionally depleted. The relentless demands of life can shift us out of balance, leaving little room for replenishment.
The Strain on the Divine Feminine
The divine feminine embodies creativity, intuition, and flow. It is the energy that thrives in cycles of rest and renewal. However, when we are constantly "on"—balancing work, household duties, and the emotional needs of our children—there’s little room left for us to simply be.
As single mothers, we often find ourselves in survival mode, which activates our divine masculine energy—structure, logic, and action. While the masculine is necessary for getting things done, when it's overextended, it can disconnect us from our softer, more fluid feminine nature. This imbalance leaves us feeling drained, emotionally distant, and struggling to reconnect with our spiritual selves.
The Power of Self-Nurturing
So, how do we reclaim the power of the divine feminine in our lives? Through intentional self-nurturing practices that allow us to fill our own cup.
Self-nurturing is more than just self-care; it’s a deliberate act of tuning into what our spirit needs to feel replenished, whole, and alive. It’s about creating sacred space for yourself in the midst of the chaos, giving yourself permission to receive just as much as you give. Here are a few ways to begin nurturing your divine feminine while balancing motherhood:
1. Create Time for Yourself
Whether it’s 10 minutes in the morning before your children wake or an evening bath after they’ve gone to bed, carve out moments where you can focus solely on you. During this time, engage in practices that make you feel nourished and restored, such as lighting candles, meditating, or simply resting in silence. Honor this time as sacred and necessary for your well-being.
2. Reconnect with Nature
The divine feminine thrives in nature. Try to step outside for even a few minutes each day, feeling the earth beneath your feet, letting the sun kiss your skin, or inhaling the freshness of the air. Nature has an incredible way of grounding us and allowing our feminine energy to flow freely again.
3. Use Ritual to Honor Yourself
As a spiritual practitioner, I’ve found that even small rituals can have a profound effect on how I feel. Something as simple as lighting a white candle while setting an intention for yourself can remind you that your energy matters. You might also create a self-love altar with objects that inspire you—crystals, flowers, or items that connect you to your higher self.
4. Engage in Creative Expression
The divine feminine is creative by nature, and when we tap into that creativity, we reignite our own inner fire. Whether it’s journaling, painting, dancing, or crocheting, allow yourself time to create freely without judgment. This is not about producing something perfect; it’s about allowing your energy to flow through you in a way that feels joyful and liberating.
5. Practice Radical Compassion
Give yourself grace. Motherhood is not easy, and being a single mother amplifies the challenges. Some days, you won’t get everything done, and that’s okay. Embrace the divine feminine practice of compassion—extend it to yourself as you would to a friend. Allow yourself to feel what you need to feel without guilt or shame.
Nurturing your divine feminine is about remembering that you are a vessel of divine energy, not just for your children but for yourself. When you prioritize self-nurturing, you align with your highest self, opening up space for abundance, healing, and inner peace. It’s not selfish to pour into yourself first—it's necessary. By nurturing your spirit, you create a ripple effect that benefits your children and everyone around you.
Embrace this season of your life with the knowing that your divine feminine is resilient and always present within you, even on the hardest days. Through small, consistent acts of self-nurturing, you can alleviate the strain and reconnect to that beautiful, sacred energy that makes you who you are. You are both a nurturer and one who deserves to be nurtured. In the balance of giving and receiving, you will find the strength to thrive in all aspects of your life.
Love,
Hounsi Fredasi 🌹
Are you seeking clarity on where to focus your self-nurture efforts? Book a Self- Nurture Insight Reading.
Are you interested in learning more about healing the womb and connecting with the divine feminine? Purchase A Course
Looking for community? Want to learn more about hoodoo including joining a FREE hood mentorship. Join our Sacred Roots: Hoodoo and Vodou Healing Circle.