It’s natural to turn to self-soothing practices in moments of hardship for comfort. These rituals—whether meditation, journaling, praying, or treating yourself with rest—are valuable tools of healing. But there’s a fine line between allowing yourself grace and using self-soothing as a crutch to avoid forward movement.
When we constantly default to self-soothing without accountability, we risk stagnating. Instead of recalibrating and rising, we stay stuck, pacifying ourselves with the idea that it’s okay to rest,” without asking why we’re resting action. This pattern can hinder our personal growth and disrupt the harmony of the divine energies within us, especially the divine masculine.
Understanding the Divine Masculine
The divine masculine within us represents structure, action, accountability, and drive. It’s the part of us that creates boundaries, takes initiative, and pushes forward. Without it, we lack the discipline and courage to pursue. However, when out of balance, we can suppress this energy by overindulging in the nurturing, passive qualities of the divine feminine.
True healing requires us to nurture and act. Self-soothing is a function of the divine feminine, and while it provides the grace to process pain, it must be balanced with the divine masculine’s insistence on progress. This doesn’t mean rushing through your healing but ensuring you don’t become trapped in it.
Giving Yourself Grace Without Excusing Stagnation
The phrase, “give yourself grace” has become a mantra for those navigating challenges, and rightly so- it’s a reminder to be kind to yourself. But when grace is used as an excuse to avoid accountability, it loses it’s power.
Grace doesn’t mean ignoring the voice within calling you to rise. It means acknowledging the struggle while challenging yourself to take the next step, however small. Grace honors where you are while keeping your eyes on where you’re going.
If you find yourself saying, “I’m giving myself grace” but notice no progress, it’s worth asking if you’re truly healing- or avoiding.
Reconnecting with Your Divine Masculine Energy
To prevent self-soothing from becoming a crutch, you must embrace the divine masculine within you. Here’s how:
- Set Intentional Boundaries: Recognize when rest is truly needed versus when you’re using it as an excuse. Create boundaries for self-soothing and commit to take action afterward.
- Create a Plan of Action: The divine masculine thrives on structure. After a period of self-reflection, map out your next steps. This doesn’t need to be perfect-just actionable.
- Hold Yourself Accountable: Accountability is love. Check in with yourself: Are you honoring your purpose? If not, what’s holding you back?
- Take Small, Consistent Steps: Sometimes stagnation feels overwhelming because the next step feels too big. Break it down into smaller, achievable actions.
- Reflections on Your “Why”: Why are you self-soothing? Is it to process, or is it to avoid discomfort? Let the divine masculine’s clarity guide you through the haze.
Grace in Balance
Balancing the divine the divine masculine and feminine is about flow. It’s recognizing when you need the softness of the feminine to heal and when you need the structure of the masculine to act. True grace lies in honoring both energies- giving yourself the pace to rest and push to move forward.
Healing is not just about soothing your wounds; it’s about transforming them. And that transformation requires you to lean into your divine masculine, to rise after the rest and to keep walking the path even when it feels uncomfortable. Self-soothing is a tool, not a destination. Let grace and accountability guide you as you balance the energies within and step into your power.
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